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Created on 2009-05-01 10:04:07 (#157691), last updated 2019-04-17 (5 days ago)

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Despite going a bit mad during my undergraduate years, I nonetheless managed to fall head over heels in love with the city of Cambridge, and the affair lasted rather longer than my academic career. Finally though the lure of the big smoke with her lights and her magic became too much, and I found myself decamping to North London, where I share a house with the ever stimulating [personal profile] robert_jones and my beloved [personal profile] obandsoller. I maintain about three people's social lives at once, and work a demanding but interesting job in the city. I don't get much sleep, but I have an awful lot of fun.

"A happy life consists not in the absence, but in the mastery of hardships." - Helen Keller

I am, most of the time, ridiculously, almost embarassingly happy. I'm still not quite sure how, after many years of depression and misery, this has come about. I laugh a lot. I love passionately and deeply. I look upon the world with a sense of awe and gratitude and wonder. I sound like some kind of hippie. I'm not without cynicism, but my sense of humour is black as pitch, so I find pleasure even in that.

"The mark of perfect Friendship is not that help will be given when the pinch comes (of course it will) but that, having been given, it makes no difference at all. It was a distraction, an anomaly. It was a horrible waste of the times, always too short, that we had together. Perhaps we only had a couple of hours in which to talk and, God bless us, twenty minutes of it had to be devoted to affairs!" The Four Loves, C.S.Lewis.

"Appreciation is a wonderful thing; it makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well" Voltaire

I could wax lyrical for hours about the amazing people I am so privileged to know and to call friends. I could marvel at the extraordinary acts of kindness shown towards me by so many people. I could wonder at the pleasure I have known on so many evenings, sharing thoughts and feelings, serious discourse and peals of laughter, over a glass of wine or several. I could speak, all astonishment, on how much I've learned of so many things, and how much there is still to learn from these people. I could not, however, begin to do justice to them.

"There is no such thing on earth as an uninteresting subject; the only thing that can exist is an uninterested person." G. K. Chesterton.

I want to know more. I want to know about everything. Most of all, I want to know what people are passionate about, what they love, what makes their lives that little bit more exciting.

If you want to contact me, various means are here. (Friends only, but email to my @dreamwidth address gets picked up regularly.)

If you want to arrange to see me, my calendar is here.

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absurdly extravagant food, accidentally getting things right, acting on impulse, addiction, aesthetics, agape, almost fitting stereotypes, analogising food and sex, anglo-catholicism, antagonism, arrogance, artistry in skin, asking difficult questions, asking the impossible, balancing excitement and stability, bardcamp, bdsm, beauty, being good, being passionately myself, belonging where i am, bisexuality, blacker than black humour, boots, breathing places, briar rose, broken people, broken things, c.s.lewis, catholicism, christ, constantly re-inventing myself, contradictions, conversations until sunrise, corsetry, crushes on unsuitable people, cynical romanticism, dancing in the rain, david bowie, days stolen from books, deeply passionate friendships, delight, devotion, discovering hidden things, doing everything with style, dreams come true, eccentricity, economics, emptiness, envy, eternity, etiquette, excess, exegesis, experimentation, extending self-knowledge, extremity for extremity's sake, fairy tales, fallen angels, falling in love, feeding each other strawberries, finding beauty unexpectedly, finding limits, foolish love affairs, forgiveness, fullfilling potential, getting attached to places, getting lost in books, gregory maguire, grimm brothers, growing stronger, hans christian anderson, happiness, head-games, heaven, hedonism, hell, human capacity to love, identity, indulging whims, insanity, intensity, knowledge, learning, libertarianism, life on the edge, little st mary's, lying to myself, manipulation, mathematics, misanthropy, moments of quieter pleasure, neil gaiman, never ever letting go, nothing, obscurity, obsession, old-fashioned speech patterns, oscar wilde, over-analysing things, pain, patrick suskind's 'perfume', people-watching, perfection, perversion, playing songs on repeat, playing with gender assumptions, pleasure, polyamory, pretty things, pride, promiscuity, psychosis, pursuing a dandy's lifestyle, queer theology, radical feminism, razor blades, re-reading david gemmell novels, religion, romantic cynicism, sadomasochism, salvation, sarcasm, secrets, selfishness, sensation, sensuality, service, shoes, sin, submission, sunset over the thames, taking on too much, tastes of autumn, the cure, the cusp of seasons, the great shakespeare readthroughs, the sky in winter, the unfairness of grace, theology, tight-lacing, transgression, unanticipated debauchery, unashamed self-indulgence, understanding the whole world, undeserved kindnesses, unsweetened black coffee, walking alongside the thames, wickedness, words
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