Social media gubbins

So I've got myself an Ello account - same username as this. I've also got some invites if anyone wants one. Like many, I'm a little sceptical that it'll actually take off and lure people away from facebook, but we'll see. It has been pointed out by a few people that Dreamwidth actually has quite a lot of the benefits over facebook that Ello claims (no adds, no selling your data), as well as rather more features, and there's been various lamenting over the fact that hardly anyone still posts here/on livejournal, and I'm as guilty of that as the next person, so I might start making an effort to post a bit more.

I think part of what puts me off is that on here I feel the need to craft posts carefully, and say deep and meaningful things, but actually, just posting some life updates wouldn't go amiss. Something I've become very much aware of over the last few years is how infrequently I see the people I don't live with compared to when I lived in Cambridge, or even shortly after I moved to London, when I was going out a lot more. I've realised that just like my mother I don't tend to enjoy large gatherings of people, especially if I'm not hosting, so parties aren't really a thing I do anymore. Even my closest friends I only manage to see once every month or two if they live in London, and less if they're further away. It is, I think, a very different sort of closeness, built on years and trust rather than the passionate intensity of my youth (oh dear lord I sound ancient). But yes, that does seem to mean that I don't have nearly as much sense of what's going on in other people's day to day lives, nor share nearly as much of my own.

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And in the spirit of posting more quick things, today's Captain Awkward was particularly good, I thought. (Content note for discussion of severe depression and attempted suicide.) The suggestion of looking for ways to spend time looking after a depressed person without making it about the depression especially.