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[wildeabandon]

Whenever I google for "male femme" or "male femininity", what I get is resources for trans women, or if I dig a bit deeper in one direction, for male transvestites, or in the other direction for maab genderqueers.  And it's great that all those resources exist, but they're not for me.

And I think, can I really be the only person who is male-identifed, with no female or genderqueer side at all, but who has femme as an important part of his identity?  I mean, on some level, obviously not, because my nails and cocktails parties, which are about as femme as an event gets,  have been consistently more than 40% male and less than 40% female.  But life is complicated.  Waah

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[sfred]

You're not even the only person I know to whom that applies. I'm sorry it's so hard to find the others and to find resources.

[highlyeccentric]

I've seen 'fem' used a descriptor for a subset of cis gay men, but... perhaps only in media that predates my coming-out. I don't think any of my femmey gay guy freinds my age or younger use that descriptor. Interesting.

[cremains]

Just followed a link from Liv's DW -- to chime in a second with the above, I also definitely know femme men. You're not alone!