Engaged!

[wildeabandon]

As most of you have probably seen on Facebook, obandsoller and I got engaged over the weekend. I am, predictably, a huge sappy pile of mush jumping over the moon.

We've had an understanding for quite a while that we'd probably get married eventually, but a few weeks ago I asked Ramesh how he felt about us getting engaged now, even though church stuff meant that we probably wouldn't actually get married for quite a long time. He said he wanted to think about it, and then on Saturday night he said that he'd thought about it and "Yes." I'm very very happy.

We're intending quite a long engagement. We're probably going to be buying a house in a few months, so we won't even be thinking about planning until that's done and the dust has settled. And then there's still the church stuff to figure out - I'm both the one who really wants the church wedding, and the one who is more invested in marriage generally, so I suspect it largely comes down to whether the point at which the impatience for the latter outweighs the former happens before or after the CoE drags itself kicking and screaming into the 21st century, but that is a worry for another day.

Right now, I'm just going to glow in the knowledge that this wonderful, beautiful, kind, fascinating man is daft enough to want to spend the rest of his life with me.

Comments

[fluffymormegil]

Congratulations!

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :)

[sfred]

I am so delighted for both of you. Feeling quite vicariously mushy. You are both very lucky men.
xx

[wildeabandon]

We are, aren't we? :D Thank you.

[emperor]

*\o/*

[wildeabandon]

:D

[liv]

Oh, this is so brilliant and wonderful! I squee'd so much when I saw the FB post, happy happy happy. I mean, I can see it's not entirely a new relationship development as you were already planning lives together and marriage was on the cards, but it's still exciting.

The church thing... I have a lot of sympathy. For my denomination, there was a real tipping point rather than a gradual progress on the same-sex marriage issue; I don't think anyone could have really predicted how long it would take. But I don't foresee either interfaith marriage or any recognition of poly relationships happening basically ever, and I'm a bit sad about those things. It's not the same as your situation, not at all, but I think I have some understanding.

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :) Yeah - I think a younger me might be dismissive about the lack of great sweeping romantic gestures, but for who I am now, and for who we are as a couple it's just right.

It is very hard to predict. I think that civil same-sex marriage will be quite a strong impetus for change, and that pressure will increase more quickly than it has in the past, but it's all guesswork. My priest has just gone on holiday for a fortnight, but I'll have a proper chat with him when he gets back and both see if he has an insider view on how long he things it's likely to take, and also get some ideas of what we could do in terms of a service connected to a civil marriage within the current constraints.

[simont]

Ooh! Congratulations :-)

[wildeabandon]

Thank you!

[naath]

Congratulations, and I hope the church stops being horrid soon.

[wildeabandon]

Thank you, on both counts.

[barakta]

Congrats! So pleased for you and enjoying your happy.

Hope you are also able to work out how to navigate the churchy side of things in a way which is not too far from your ideal.

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :) I am more hopeful after yesterday's news about the openly married gay priest being elected to synod.

[silverhare]

Congratulations! :D

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :)

[andrewducker]

Congratulations - I'm very happy for you!

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :)

[ceb]

Squeee! Congratulations :-)

[wildeabandon]

Thank you :)

[kht]

Congratulations! That is very exciting news. I hope that the church comes to its senses soon so that you don't have to wait longer than you want to.