As I mentioned on my previous interests post, I was a bit surprised when looking through the list how many of them still felt relevant, but there were four which didn't quite feel like me anymore, so I deleted them and replaced them with four new ones. I was therefore slightly surprised that two of the three which ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
bunnypip has asked me to write about were of those four.
Once again, if you'd like me to pick three of your interests/tags to write about, say so in the comments. Also, if you don't want to do the post yourself but would like to pick three of mine, that would be neat, as it's good to have writing prompts :)
asking difficult questions
This was the only earlier one, and I can't really remember what youngerwildeabandon was thinking. But nowadays it has something to do with trying to really understand why people (very much including myself) think the things they do. I suspect that in the past I may have done this in an overly aggressive and thus counterproductive way, but I hope that I'm now better at still asking the questions but doing so constructively.
doing things badly
I used to believe on some level that I should only do things that I'm good at, or at least rapidly getting better at if it's something new. In recent years I have become a lot more comfortable with doing things badly. I'm still not quite as relaxed about it as I'd like to be, and there's a longer post to come at some point about the different ways I enjoy different hobbies, but the basic lesson that I'm allowed to enjoy things whatever my skill level was an important one.
inbetween places
This is surprisingly hard to write about, and I don't think I'm going to be able to do justice to what I really mean, but it's sort of about the way some of my identities (don't) fit together. It's about being a queer in the Church; it's about being the autistic person who makes social events happen; it's about being a feminine trans man who definitely isn't genderqueer, but might have been if the world were shaped differently.
bunnypip has asked me to write about were of those four.Once again, if you'd like me to pick three of your interests/tags to write about, say so in the comments. Also, if you don't want to do the post yourself but would like to pick three of mine, that would be neat, as it's good to have writing prompts :)
asking difficult questions
This was the only earlier one, and I can't really remember what younger
wildeabandon was thinking. But nowadays it has something to do with trying to really understand why people (very much including myself) think the things they do. I suspect that in the past I may have done this in an overly aggressive and thus counterproductive way, but I hope that I'm now better at still asking the questions but doing so constructively.doing things badly
I used to believe on some level that I should only do things that I'm good at, or at least rapidly getting better at if it's something new. In recent years I have become a lot more comfortable with doing things badly. I'm still not quite as relaxed about it as I'd like to be, and there's a longer post to come at some point about the different ways I enjoy different hobbies, but the basic lesson that I'm allowed to enjoy things whatever my skill level was an important one.
inbetween places
This is surprisingly hard to write about, and I don't think I'm going to be able to do justice to what I really mean, but it's sort of about the way some of my identities (don't) fit together. It's about being a queer in the Church; it's about being the autistic person who makes social events happen; it's about being a feminine trans man who definitely isn't genderqueer, but might have been if the world were shaped differently.
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Date: 2021-01-05 01:27 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2021-01-05 02:34 pm (UTC)From:Yes, definitely difficult to ask people why they think things without making them feel attacked, gah.
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Date: 2021-01-05 09:14 pm (UTC)From:Thank you for writing about these.
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Date: 2021-01-06 08:23 am (UTC)From:being a feminine trans man who definitely isn't genderqueer, but might have been if the world were shaped differently
I am very interested in this - coming at what might be a similar position from the other direction, iyswim.